"Successful Dating"

Do a Google search for "dates from hell", and you just might 
crash their servers. There are tons of websites devoted to 
subject.  One described a guy who talked about his ex-girlfriend 
all night, then drove by his ex's house a few times because he 
was "concerned for her welfare".  Another told the story of a 
girl who made another date for later that evening, over her cell 
phone, during dinner.   I'm sure you have a few war stories of 
your own.  You know what I think?  

There are no bad dates.

"No bad dates??" you'd tell me. "You've obviously never spent 
an evening with Mr/Ms. X who thought the silverware was speaking 
to them…in Klingon".  Maybe not, but so long as you were not in 
any danger or got hurt in any way, it wasn't that bad.  It 
probably only lasted a few hours, and you must have found some 
humor in that person across the table, waiting for the 
mothership.  Cross Captain Kirk off of your list and chalk 
it up to a learning experience.

The important thing is to not get discouraged and give up on 
dating completely.  Stick with it, and keep looking to make 
that connection.  Here are three quick tips:


Release yourself from expectation.

Never "expect" your date to be "the one", no matter how cute or 
nice they are initially.  You set the date up to be a disaster 
by your unrealistic expectations.  It creates undue pressure 
and leads you on a scavenger hunt for faults in the other 
person.  Relax, enjoy the process, and don't focus on an 
"end result" that you have invented for yourself.  

It's all about attitude!  Your mindset is what determines the 
quality of any experience.  If you approach your date with a 
good attitude, there are no bad dates.  Each experience is a 
step towards finding the person that is right for you.


Go out on as many dates as possible.

The way to that right person is through a lot of not-the-right 
persons.  The more dates you have, the more opportunities you 
make for yourself.  Mr. or Ms. Right will not come knocking on 
your door while you are watching TV.  Date, date and then date 
some more, the process is the answer.


Meet many people that might be possible dates.

A positive dating attitude gives you endless opportunities to 
meet the right person.

Don't rule out any method or avenue, and try them all: speed 
date, people at the gym, through friends, or online - even 
Aunt Millie's set up.  Do it all!  


The Internet is fast becoming one of the best and most accepted 
ways to meet people.  They call it online dating, but it should 
really be called online meeting, since you don't actually date 
until you physically get together.   It is, however, a melting 
pot of interesting people and opportunities.  There are ways to 
meet people online safely and with great success!  Go to The 
http://RealtionshipTools.com and get your free book, "Tools to 
Online Dating" and become a successful dater with no bad dates!